My Final Project Essay

Name  : Musfera Nara Vadia
NIM/BP  : 1300925/2013
Class  : K4/13
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Children and Sex Education

                These days, sexual crimes have been rushing into teenagers and children’s life. Indonesian Child Protection Commission noted that more than 100 Indonesian children are being victim sexual crimes. In addition, teenagers have done free sex; in worst, some of them assumed that free sex is fair deal. Besides that, children sexual crimes are not only doing by strangers. In some cases, people who close with children -teacher, relative, new friend- also did children sexual crimes. As a result, children and teenagers should learn about sex education in order to prevent and resolve problems about it. They need to realize how importance to respect and to take responsibility of their body for their brilliant future.

            In psychology sides, sex education is very important for children development in order they do not misconception about sexual perception, and it prevents risk of sexual crimes. Like children, parents also should learn about sex education and how children’s life looks like now. Therefore, communication relationship between parents and children will wide open. Parents will be easy to take control of their children, and they can teach their children in good ways. It is important to understand the stages of sexual development children are likely to go through at different ages and what parents can do to help them adjust to the changes they will experience. Parents are often relieved to hear that helping their child towards a happy, healthy sexuality does not come from any ‘one big talk’ that must be word perfect. There are several ways to teach sex education for children according to their development stages.

            First stage, younger children (five to seven), parents should teach their children five to seven years of ages about the basic learning how to respect their body. The basic learning means learning how to understand their body part. Teach children the names of the sexual parts of the body and body functions – this helps them to communicate more clearly and contributes to their safety and wellbeing. Because children in this stage have a curiosity about their bodies, parents will be the main guide for appropriate behavior. Therefore, parents should teach their children how to esteem and protect their bodies. For example, parents should teach them how to care for, and to keep in good health their bodies. In addition, parents have to introduce the differences between opposite sex to children. It is important for them to know about boy and girl’s relationship.

            Second stage, intermediate children (eight to ten), parents should teach their children how to prepare themselves when the changes of puberty came. In this stage, parents have important role of their children’s development. Parents have to make sure that children have abilities to differentiate between internal and external bodily events. It means that children should know about marks of primary and secondary sexuality according to their each gender. For example, for girls, there is a need to know about breast development, and the onset of menstrual cycles. In boys, there is a need for information on genital growth and ejaculation. Although males do not have a direct counterpart to menarche in females, the first nocturnal ejaculation of a young boy can cause the same psychological concern. The most important that these body changes are part of normal sexual development. Because children are in the puberty changes, parents should demonstrate children to take responsibility of their healthy reproduction as general. That is, parents should teach children what the cause and effect of boy and girl’s relationship. For instance, parents should explain that between boy and girl should have privacy.

            Next stage, older children (eleven to twelve), parents should teach their children the biology of sex and reproduction more details rather than intermediate children. Children on this stage are still having a big curiosity; however, they know more and more according to their own experience, but it is still not enough. Therefore, parents should teach their children about marks of primary and secondary sexuality both of them. It means that both of boy and girl should know about their opposite sex puberty development. Girls should know about male pubertal changes, and boys should know female pubertal changes. In addition, children should comprehend and accept their pattern personal development.

            Last stage, teenagers, parents should demonstrate teenager to comprehend about sex education according to their changes of puberty experience. On this stage, their biological development is established. Most pubertal changes have occurred, and most of their physical attributes are set. Therefore, teenagers should know about their physical development and their psychology development. For the reason, teenagers have to figure out sexual anatomy and teenager reproduction. Talking about teenager reproduction, it is important for them to identify performing sexual acts deviation. It also has relation with sexually disseminated infections. Therefore, teenagers should comprehend about that, and they should avoid for doing free sex. They should realize consequent by doing sexual acts deviation as personal and as person in society. On the other hand, according to psychology side, personal appearance and social popularity grow to be overwhelming forces in teen’s daily life. Teenagers join in society; therefore, they should expand responsibility of relationship in society.

            How suffer if parents still do not understand how importance the benefits and purposes of sex education for children. There is still suppose that sex education is not necessary because it can make children do negative things. Sometime parents are difficult to begin conversation about sex with children because they think it is taboo to discuss with them. From these ways above, parents can have new perspective about sex education, they know more about how importance sex education for childhood according to their development stage, and they have right comprehend about how to convey sex education for their children with perfect words. If parents still lack to convey it, or parents feel uncomfortable to discuss about it with their children; parents need to think about their own moral, ethical, and religious sexual standards so that parents can better explain their point of view to their child.